My whole life I have suffered from something I like to call Shrinking Self Syndrome. The basic mechanics of Shrinking Self Syndrome are to build somebody up in your mind as if they were something flawless and intimidating of which you are totally unworthy...almost demigod like. When you do this, you suppress your own self to afford full reverence to the greatness before you. This prevents the “great” person from getting to meet YOU!
Example - The Job Interview
(This is a piece I wrote when I was in high school and am presenting unedited. I think it’s interesting to look back on, even if my thoughts are a little different today. My main observation is the undeniable sense of certainty that is often found in teenagers. I was on to the secret of life and approaching full enlightenment I’m sure I thought!!! Life is not so simple young padawan…
Even with that said, there’s definitely some meat to chew on with this idea. Understanding you control your reaction to and perception of any situation is one of the most powerful tools of enlightenment I have found still to this day.)
Some quick thoughts on Life Lessons:
Moving to the country filled me with resentment toward my husband that I never expected. He was living his dream, while I was nowhere near living mine. I had allowed this resentment to root deeply and the filter it produced was all gray. I did not and WOULD not ever enjoy living here. Everywhere I looked I saw more reasons why I hated it here.
People will remain in their mindset as long as it serves them.
What is happiness? Is it a sustainable state? I have read about others describing a deep, inner joy that is similar to nirvana. I see others smile, laugh, hug, be joyous, and succeed at work...my whole life I have looked at these people and wondered what they had figured out that I hadn’t.
In Mental Jailbreak's first ever post, we will examine something light and easy to be sure to get off on a good foot. (Since we don't know each other very well yet, that's dry sarcasm bleeding through in the very first sentence of this website's existence.)
We're going to talk about casual use of words considered by many to be offensive, hurtful, or even hate speech. Specifically, I want to talk about the F word.
Please point your attention to exhibit A, a clip from the 2003 comedy, "Old School":
Andy is a curious soul with INFJ-T personality who likes to examine life closely and lives for those moments of deep revelation and spiritual connection.